December 11, 2014

I Think You're a Fool, but I'm Not Going to Tell You


One of the most difficult things about blogging is figuring out "the line," or more specifically, when you're crossing it.

The internet especially is filled with so many polarizing topics that are even more heated because both sides are throwing rocks from behind a keyboard. It's not hard to find an issue that just really presses your "WTF" button. And whether it's political, religious, or even blog-related, sometimes you just want to let that idiot with the ugly avatar really have a piece of your mind.

The difficult part is figuring out how to handle that. Do you suit up your superior avatar and put that fool back in his place? Do you passively aggressively tweet about the situation? Maybe whip out a cryptic Facebook status? Perhaps you just ignore it all together and blog about something completely irrelevant, like naplets.

If you've read my blog, I think it's obvious which route I usually choose. Sometimes I do get a little sassy and sometimes I even get downright controversial because... well, I'm human. But even then, my words are generally pretty measured because I don't want to wake up in a blog bed that I regret the next morning.

I consciously choose to be that way, both on my blog and in real life. I have more opinions than Bill O'Reilly would know what to do with, but Derrick is usually the only one who gets to hear the juicy ones.

I choose to be that way because I think that it's important. Specifically, I think that it's important how you present yourself to the world and having the ability to recognize when to keep your mouth shut. Just because you have a feeling or a thought in your head does not mean you need to share it.

In fact, in many situations, it's just not acceptable to be your raw, unfiltered self. If it was, there would be one sorry man out there with a bruised kneecap for cutting me off at the Farragut West DC metro stop this evening.

My point is this: the opposite of "being real" is not necessarily "being fake." To me, it seems like people often throw around the "I'm just being real" card as an excuse to just be downright selfish or cruel. I'm not saying that you should live a passive life or never stand up for what you believe in; I think that's important too.

But there's a difference between standing your ground on something you believe in, and telling some girl she's got split ends because you're just "being real."

It's not just important for that girl's feelings but it's important for you. Your reputation can be everything, and it is something that is very hard to fix once it's broken.